Dealing with a chronic illness at any time can take every last bit of energy and strength you have. When holidays roll around, whether it’s the middle of the summer and you’re celebrating the 4th of July or a birthday, or you’re already stressing over Thanksgiving and Christmas, it’s important to know how to take care of yourself and your illness.
There will be extra demands, extra stress, and it can often feel like you have less time for yourself. So, when your internal resources may already be running low, what can you do to manage your chronic illness?
Give People a Share of the Work
You don’t have to do everything yourself, even if you’re hosting a get-together. With any holiday or event, don’t be afraid to delegate different jobs to people. That isn’t always easy if you’re someone who likes to be in control. But, your health matters more.
For example, ask people to bring different dishes instead of doing all of the cooking yourself. Or, give family members tasks around your house like cleaning or decorating. Being able to delegate these jobs can conserve your energy while you make sure the important things still get done. As a result, you won’t wear yourself out, and you can actually enjoy the festivities.
Include an Ending Time
If you’re sending out invitations to a holiday or event, be sure to include an ending time. You know how your illness affects you more than anyone else. But, many people with chronic illnesses experience heavy fatigue and weakness, especially if you’re busy or doing something out of the norm.
By setting a “cut off” time for your event, you’ll be able to make sure that your body doesn’t get too fatigued. People can tend to overstay if they aren’t told when the party is over. Make your rest a priority, and only allow the event to go on as long as you feel comfortable.
Provide Yourself a Day of Rest
If you’ve been busy planning a holiday event or party, you probably have a schedule in place for when things need to be done. Make sure you include at least one day of rest somewhere in the middle of that schedule. This can help to fight off fatigue and give you the energy you need to actually enjoy the holiday itself.
During your party or event, it’s also a good idea to have a ‘safe’ room to go into. If you’re dealing with a chronic illness, everyone will understand if you need to take a break. So, make at least one room in your house off-limits during the holiday. If you’re feeling sick or tired, you can go into that room for a period of time to get some rest.
Understand It’s Okay to Say No
Just as it’s important to delegate certain tasks to others, it’s also important to say “no” if you’re feeling bogged down and tired. If you feel like you’re doing too much for the holiday, don’t be afraid to turn down someone asking you to do one more task or take on one more thing. It’s not a question of being rude or lazy. Instead, it’s making your health a priority.
Remember, any holiday celebration should be fun and relaxing. Just because you’re dealing with a chronic illness doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to enjoy every second of the holiday experience with everyone else. If you need to practice saying “no,” take the time to do it. You won’t disappoint your friends and family. You’ll be putting your own self-care first.
You can absolutely enjoy the holidays with a chronic illness. But, make sure you listen to the things your mind and body are telling you. When you do, you’re more likely to feel better throughout any event, and keep from wearing yourself out.
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I know how stressful and demanding it can be to make changes in your life, but you don’t have to figure it out on your own. Some of the benefits of individual therapy include:
- Having a safe, confidential space to work through life’s struggles
- Speaking openly with a highly-trained professional
- Learning to be curious about oneself and become more mindful about your choices
- Identifying relationship patterns that are helpful, or existing patterns that are interfering with your growth and well-being.
- I offer online therapy (video conference style of therapy), which provides increased level of comfort as you could meet with me from the privacy and comfort of your own home or other location.
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*** The tips offered in this article are for general information and should not be considered medical or psychological advice. For more personalized recommendations appropriate to your individual situation, please contact us or obtain professional guidance.
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